"I lead through fear, intimidation, and public humiliation"
Have you ever heard a leader say, out loud, “I lead through fear, intimidation, and public humiliation”? I doubt it.
Have you ever seen a leader try to lead in this way? I would guess you probably have.
I think most of the people who are leading through such means are not trying to on purpose. Otherwise, they would be much more willing to admit it. If they did admit, it would sound pretty silly to them.
This is what makes self-reflection so important. Yes, you need inputs from other sources as part of that process. But other sources are never as credible as we are with ourselves. We need to provide ourselves honest, candid, and written feedback. When written, the words carry much more waste. Thinking “I am leading through fear” is not nearly as powerful as writing the same statement.
I, for example, am not sensitive to the timing of the feedback I give. I just give it when it comes up, or when convenient. That is not the most effective way to let people receive feedback. In writing it, it becomes much more tangible that I am doing something that hurts my outcomes.
Most people aren’t trying to be a bad leader, it’s just something that happens. The only way we truly improve is to make our own gaps visible, and then work on them. And personal, written reflection is one of the most effective ways to do this.
I would love to hear about your own gaps: what do you need to work on? Make your public declaration here.